Limited Spaces.

Peace, my heart, let the time for the parting be sweet.
Let it not be a death but completeness.
Let love melt into memory and pain into songs.
Let the flight through the sky end in the folding of wings over nest.
Let the last touch of your hands be gentle like flower of night.
Stand still, beautiful End, for a moment.
And say your last words in silence.
I bow to you and hold up my lamp to light you on your way.
To lead you away from me.

~Rabindranath Tagore~

DADDY
MUMMY
AH GONG
AH MA
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ARE COMING BACK!!!
Can you believe it?!
Haha...

Is Edison right/wrong, good/bad?

Background:

We were studying when we heard 98.7FM ask audience about if they think what Edison did was acceptable. And we started dropping our pens and share our different view points.

CL "为什么他要这样？"

A "CL, you have to understand that no matter how much you are educated that taking these kind of pictures are wrong, but out of religious context, it's not wrong! Maybe just no good..."

CL "I think it's wrong and also sick to do that... He should see a doctor. (Most sincerely I said that, not trying to be funny, but really he should consult doctor.)"

SL "It is not good la, but it's not wrong mah. Those who distributes the photos are then in wrong because they exposed others' privacy."

CL "Ya, I agree also that those people shouldn't leak those photos to earn attention. But to compare the weightings of wrongfulness and seriousness of problem, Edison's wrong is more jia-lat lor..."

A "CL you see, he didn't rape or molest. Those girls willingly acknowledge him taking the photos. Technically, he didn't break any criminal law. Although I myself think he's abit sick up there, but indeed the truth is he isn't wrong what."

SL "Agree..."

CL "Not breaking criminal law doesn't mean not wrong lor. Telling a lie to my parents is wrong but still, I wouldn't get caught for doing it. Thus, not all wrong things are covered under laws mah. So he may be in wrong and still not doing something illegal."

A "That's why I say it's not good, but not wrong."

CL "You see, why do we think that this isn't good? Because deep down our conscience tells us it's wrong, but due to the many many different open views in this world plus the increase support of laws(not being able to intervent others' privacy), we have diluted wrong to not good."

A "Frankly speaking, which man don't have such fantasy and needs?"

SL "All guys are like that. Just that some openly say that and others hide better. You never know."

CL "I agree guys are more pron to getting to these kind of trouble, but I don't agree that there aren't some who are free from all these guilt. Depending on where you look for guys."

A "Then tell me where can you look for such good guys? Even if have also all nerdy kind..."

SL "You want to call us to go church to see your church guys right?!"

ALL "HAHA..." (Oh, SL's so right!)

CL "Ok, do you all agree that Edison is morally wrong?"

A & SL "Of course la!"

A "But still, in general, this whole episode about him is just him being superb suay. Because he didn't force he's way to fulfill his needs, he didn't rob or steal. And it's his privacy that we should respect."

CL "Actually, I think this exposure is an important and cannot-miss life lesson for him. The fact is, it is actually doing more good than harm to him. If not, he will not repent and realise he's wrong..."

A "CL, he's not wrong, you think he's wrong because of your religion education. (Edison is a Christian) If Edison today is not a Christian, he's not wrong! Just like when a Malay eats pork he's wrong but when a Chinese of other religion eats pork, there's no wrong. So the wrong lies in him being a Christian."

CL "So you mean a Muslim will be punished by Allah and Chirstians be punished by Jesus and Buddhist punished by GuanYin on Judgment day next time?! Not possible right?"

A "Ya la, but how can you fit your religion's standard upon everyone and assume that your God is real?"

SL "Don't convince her already. She is deeply rooted to her religious thinkings."

CL "I feel quite sad that is because we are now slowly accepting all these nonsense that our next generation will become worse. Imagine if your daughter becomes a lesbian or takes these kind of photos, wouldn't you think it's wrong ans stop her?"

A "I'll ask her why she does that. Because it's not good. BUT NOT WRONG... She has her freedom of choice just as long she stays within the boundaries of law."

CL "You see, you will ask her right?! That's means somethings' not right what..."

A "But not that it's wrong, just that it's not good lor, like what you said!"

CL "... ... ... But really we should reconsider those that we think it's ok but wasn't ok in previous generations. Is it because we want to make ourselves less sinful and in the wrong that we managed to convince our conscience that it's ok to do something that's not right. And if like you all say the world is not as perfect as I think it still may be, the more we should be closing one eye to the wrongs just because everyone's doing it."

SL "Do you believe in 一生一世？"

CL "Of course! If not there wouldn't be meaning to get married."

A "You mean cannot divorce? And you wouldn't remarry after you divorce?"

CL "The WEDDING VOW says to cherish and love each other till the ends of lifetime. Thus, if neither of them haven't end their lifetime, they should still uphold their vows throughout their lifetime. That's also even when your spouse breaks his/hers, you still have to uphold yours mah... "

SL "That's why wedding to you all is a holy matrimony ar?"

CL "Ya lor, so must see carefully mah..."

A "Actually讲难听一点people get married just for the cert to buy a house mah, so the vow doesn't mean anything actually."

SL "And weddings you are kind of forced to take the vow. It's the regulation set mah."

CL "That's why it's so important to choose properly mah... And if both parties put values into the vow, the vow will be of value. But if both parties don't cherish a don't value it, the vow, like nothing, is of no worthiness."

SL "However, what keeps two person together is more than a vow. It's the love, the passion and endurance and trust."

CL "Agree... Agree!"

A & SL "Whao,你真的会为了一个约这样吗？"

CL "Like I say, it's just an ideal way of living, I can't guarantee I'll be able to live that out. But that definitely what should be the way in marriage."

A "I'm going to blog about this and see what's other people's responses..."

CL & SL "Ok, ok... Come, get back to SMK please."



SO...

Do you agree:
1. Fulfilling reasonable needs this way = Bad
2. Not legally wrong only morally wrong = Bad
3. Bad is NOT = Wrong (Negotiable)
4. Thus, Edison is NOT WRONG, just NOT GOOD.

You see, end of the day, who really cares if he's wrong, right, bad or good.

Tomorrow's my final revision.
THAT's then my life...

Suntory

你真的是太看得起我了。
其实，我没你说的舍己、特别、刚强。
不是会配合别人的步骤生活，还有很多不足。
也千万别想象我成那些每天望着窗外的小女人，诚心向神祈祷。
高跟鞋不但一直坏掉，粗疏夸张的形容也是不能避免的。

虽然知道迟早都必须把这些坏习惯改掉，但就是不喜欢这么做。
说穿了，因为我很自私。
只会照着自己的判断决定事物，没年头打算为任何人改变什么。
反正，无论是时间、预备、思想、知识，都不对。。。

我们的差异太大了。
你欣赏的乃是我排挤的。
我珍惜的你看为无所谓。

既有这么大的差异，你却看得无所谓。
这让我更没信心。
我不喜欢像你简单了事，压抑现实生活来期望梦幻未来。
若没有一定的把握会成功，我没勇气赌上希望。

最近我常在觉得，我更健忘了。
所以日子较轻松。
也可能像我牧师说的，这些日子都是因为责任而坚持约定。
已经失去约定的意义了。。。

多没意思啊。
他也再次提醒：
两个人在一起是因为相爱。
但不是为了相爱而在一起。

你我的生命里，隐藏了更多值得我们投入的机会。
为何要为了黑白，放弃彩色呢？
我不可以。不要。不想。。。
后悔。





宗林，你怎么又是这么鸡婆。。。

It's all about giving away...

Life is a gift,
offering us the privilege, opportunity & responsibility
to GIVE something back...
By becoming more.

~Anthony Robbins~

Stop! Wait! Don't let V day pass so fast...

My ideal V day-date:

1. Visit our grandparents. Give them massage, talk to them, sing with them, bring them out for lou1 hei2. Leave with a hug or kiss, as usual...

2. Shopping of course! But to shop for others. First sit together to prepare a list of people we want to encourage and set a budget for it. Richer us = Better presents. Poorer us = Better packagings!

3. Drive around!!! Anywhere. Anyhow. Esplanade, Zoo, Reservoirs, Churches, Old houses, Best prata shops, Bistro, Coldstorage. But! At each place, we each has to come up with one present for each other. Hmm, so at least 20 places?

4. Hospital trip to visit the dying. This is one of the fairest way to share love on V day. Isn't it? It's our V day, but it's theirs too. The ones having sufficient love is having more. The ones being neglected are forgotten more.

5. Cycling! Or blading! Non-stop, whole day, rain/shine. Unless one foot came off or a tooth flew out.

6. Bring all our relatives' children out for movie/arcade. So that their parents can enjoy their V day? Age limit: 5 years onwards. Maybe bring them to seashore to pick seashells?

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Please drop some $$$ into CL Capital Fundings by cheque/cash if you happen to use any of these as an idea for your next date.

(Okay, I know no one will appreciate... T.T)

Dad says people be together in hope to find happiness. Thus, happiness -> be together -> breakup -> sadness -> in need of another happiness to come by. However, if there is no sadness, then there wouldn't be a need for happiness. Then need not a partner, then no more breakups. Thus no sadness!

Then, he says: No both of you also...

Well, enjoying NOW is something my mother taught me.

"It's the way to cherish life.
A way to prepare for changes.
It is also a way to create wonderful memories."
~CL~

"The real source of wealth and capital in this new era is not material things.
It is the human mind, the human spirit, the human imagination...
And our faith in the future."
~Steve Forbes~

:D

HEY YOU!!!

Although you are far far far away...

But!

Waiting for your safe return!

<--WHERE-->

Why do my heart, feet and mind always go different directions?

So which should I follow?
Which should I ignore?
When will they ever coordinate?
But I need not bother, I don't have to move in any direction.
YET.

The years teach much which the days never knew.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson~

Life Instructions:

People:
I lost my hp. Please understand if you can't get through ya... And currently too broke to get a new one so fast. SO! I'm enjoying my hp-free lifestyle! Have a break, have a Kit Kat.

No more calls, smses, reminders, alerts, contacts...
Aahh~~

P.S. I love you (I'm still amazed by that joke...)

One of my relative came today. And she told grandma that she had lost faith and didn't know how to pray anymore. Although she goes to church every week but somehow, there isn't inner peace, inner joy and inner love that a Christian should be experiencing anymore. I was in my room doing my P/L and B/S when I overheard the conversation in the living room... So I open the door to peek.

I was thinking grandma will encourage her to tell her worries to God, to pray and let God know all her sorrows. Or if not, pray for her? Or if not, cry with her? Hmm... She did neither. Or should I say, she did otherwise.

When that relative was crying and sharing, grandma suddenly stand up and walk to her room, took out her Bible, and stand in front of her. "When was the last time you read the Bible?" grandma asked. (Before she could even answer...) "When was the last time you sing and praise Lord?" (She stopped crying...) "When was the last time you even care about His presence in your troubled days and remember that He can do something about your life?" (Looked guilty...) "How can you dare say our God left you? How do you know that prayers wouldn't work? How did you blame Him for all the works of men? Don't insult MY GOD, because He is never leaving me as how you described. You left Him." (Started crying again...)

Grandma cried too, as usual. But later, she continue scolding. "I want you to pray now. Tell God you're sorry. Tell God you left Him but you don't want to drift anymore. Tell Him to accept you again." That's why the last thing you would want to do is to accuse grandma's God. She sure wouldn't let you off... Before my relative started praying, grandma still ask her to stop crying! In my heart, I fell in love with grandma all over again!

This reminded me to wake up, and stop asking,
"Why like that?"

Of course, she went back encouraged and refreshed again!

That's the privilege.

Horrible Week...

The existence of forgetting has never been proved:
We only know that some things don't come to mind when we want them.
~Friedrich Nietzsche~

Memory is like a child walking along a seashore.
You never can tell what small pebble it will pick up and store away among its treasured things. ~Pierce Harris~

Maybe I tried too hard to remember and to forget.
To things I deem right and wrong.
It's sad to know that I've somehow lost courage to be sincere.
Be sincere to who CL really is.